How to break up with
the pressure to be “That Girl”
By Sophia, a normal girl in the digital multiverse
She wakes up at 6 am. She journals, drinks water with lemon, rolls her face with a jade tool, drinks a green smoothie, does her skincare routine (flawlessly), makes matcha... and somehow also answers emails in a matching workout set. You know her. We all do. “That girl.”
The one who has it all figured out. The influencer whose life seems like it’s one flawless morning after another. She radiates health, wealth, and perfect skin, all while staying effortlessly poised in designer workout gear. She’s everywhere on social media : the role model, the ideal. But, let’s be real. Is she real?
The digital mirage: Why “that girl” is a myth
Let’s get one thing straight: "That girl" doesn’t exist. Not in the way we see her on Instagram, at least. The reality behind those perfectly curated moments is far from the 6 a.m. zen, lemon water, jade rolling routine we imagine. It’s scripted, polished, and designed for engagement, not reality.
Yet, we’ve been conditioned to chase her. Every Instagram story, TikTok post, and YouTube vlog reinforces the idea that this level of perfection is achievable, and it should be. But let’s pause. Is this how we want to define success?
The truth is, trying to embody the idealized life of “That girl” can lead to a never-ending cycle of pressure, guilt, and comparison. You end up chasing an impossible standard, never feeling like you’re enough, because there’s always someone doing it better, looking better, feeling better.
Breaking free from the pressure to be perfect
Here’s the deal: You don’t have to be “That Girl” to be enough. And you don’t need to constantly strive for perfection to live a fulfilling, balanced life. The first step to breaking up with the pressure to be “That Girl” is accepting that the idea of perfection we see online is just that : an idea, not reality.
We’ve all been there, scrolling through Instagram and wondering why we can’t keep up. The endless parade of flawless influencers only adds to the belief that we need to live up to impossible standards. But let’s be real. You don’t need a perfect morning to have a perfect day. You don’t need to wake up at 6 am and crush a 10-step beauty routine to feel like you’re living your best life.
And guess what? There’s no one-size-fits-all formula to life or skincare. Maybe you're someone who thrives in a slower morning. Or maybe you're not into matcha (who says you have to be?). The idea is simple: stop chasing someone else’s version of success and start figuring out what works for you.
Instead of looking to influencers for validation, ask yourself: What makes you feel good? It’s time to redefine productivity. Real productivity isn’t about having everything under control; it’s about taking care of yourself mentally, physically, and emotionally. It’s about finding that balance and knowing when to take a step back, when to slow down, and when to say no to the things that don’t serve you.
Embrace the messy parts of life
Perfection is boring. The magic happens in the imperfections, the mess, the real moments. Embrace your quirky, unpolished self. Because the truth is, there’s no one “right” way to live, and certainly no one “right” way to care for your skin. What works for someone else won’t necessarily work for you, and that’s perfectly fine.
There’s something incredibly beautiful about accepting your flaws and not trying to fix everything. When we stop focusing on fixing, we start embracing. Your skin? It’s not perfect, and neither is your life, but that’s where the beauty lies. The more you accept the messy parts, the easier it becomes to accept the parts of yourself that might be feeling overlooked or underappreciated.
It’s okay to have days where your skin isn’t glowing, where you’re stressed out, or where you just need to breathe. The pressure to have everything figured out only adds to the stress and makes it harder for your skin to thrive. Your skin isn’t just a surface issue; it’s a reflection of your emotional and mental health, too. And when your mind is at peace, your skin will follow.
Finding your own rhythm
We’re all guilty of trying to fit ourselves into a mold created by social media. But guess what? You’re not “That Girl,” and neither am I, and that’s exactly how it should be. Your life doesn’t need to look like someone else’s. It’s about finding your own rhythm. Maybe you wake up late or you skip the jade roller. That’s okay.
You are enough, just as you are, imperfections and all. Your unique way of doing things : whether that’s enjoying a slow morning, prioritizing mental health, or spending more time in nature , is what makes you special. Don’t let the pressure to be someone else’s version of “perfect” stop you from living your truth. So, here’s to breaking up with the idea of “That Girl” and embracing who you are. It’s time to stop chasing perfection and start living your own life : messy, beautiful, and real.